Did you know that 32% of divorces in Spain in 2023 occurred after 20 years of marriage or more? This fascinating data comes from the INE (National Institute of Statistics and Census), revealing that the average length of marriages that ended was 16.4 years. Meanwhile, in France, a recent article in Le Monde based on data from INSEE and the Ministry of Justice shows that nearly 50% of couples end up divorcing, a significant increase from the 12% reported in the 1970s. The author of the report refers to long-lasting couples as “marathoners.”
“You can’t get married with a Disney mentality and expect everything to magically fall into place. Building a strong foundation from the start is essential,” shares Piluca, a mother of four who, along with her husband Carlos, also took care of six nieces and nephews during a challenging time. But why is it so hard to persevere in marriage? According to journalist Pedro Herrero, one of the main obstacles is the misconception that marriage is not a solemn decision, leading to delays in commitment. Herrero compares the journey of marriage to climbing K2, requiring moral strength to face various challenges.
This perspective contrasts with the idea of finding a soulmate, as highlighted by Brad Wilcox in his book “Get Married.” Wilcox emphasizes the importance of prioritizing marital love over self-centered romantic notions. In times of crisis, maintaining love can be challenging, but it’s crucial to view crises as opportunities for growth and readjustment, as suggested by family support expert Mercedes Honrubia.
Crises That Are Bricks
Data from the General Social Survey compiled by Wilcox reveals that married individuals are significantly happier than those who are not. The quality of marriage plays a crucial role in this happiness. In the face of challenges, it’s essential to approach them with unity, communication, and a solid foundation combined with flexibility.
When children arrive…
While parenting can be exhausting and challenging, it’s important to maintain humor, patience, and a sense of unity within the marriage. Finding moments for bonding and sharing, even in everyday tasks, can strengthen the relationship.
Source: Aceprensa service fragments: “Loving with intention, the key to long-lasting happy couples” by Lucía Martínez Alcalde
